People often ask me if I workout a lot.
No, not because I’m fit…but because I married a fitness junkie.
My husband, Daniel is a true fit-atic. He is a strength and conditioning coach who coaches athletes and teams to excel specifically in their sports, a personal trainer who works with people of all levels and ages to achieve their goals, a lifestyle coach and a fitness writer. He even gained 35 pounds to see how bulky he could get four years ago before turning around and losing 43 pounds to compete and place in his first body building competition.
So you can see why people ask me if I work out a lot. They ask if he makes me workout or if he makes me measure my food. Don’t get me wrong, I do my fair share of working out. I try to stay active by dancing Tahitian and hula, going to yoga and going on the occasional jog or hike, but my level of dedication to fitness is no where near the level of my husband’s. He sits there and eats his 6 oz. of baked chicken breast while I indulge in my second bowl of pasta.
Although I don’t go to the extremes that he sometimes goes to if he’s working towards a goal, it doesn’t mean I haven’t learned a few things about fitness along the way….
1. There’s such thing as being “skinny fat.” I used to think that I just wanted to be skinny. But I’ve learned that there’s such a thing as being skinny, or rather thin and toned and then there’s being skinny fat. The skinny where you may be skinny but all you have on your body is fat, not muscle. (I know you’re thinking I don’t care if it’s muscle or fat as long as I’m skinny!) But as I’ve gotten older I can appreciate the difference. Take Cameron Diaz, for instance, that’s definitely not skinny fat. That’s look great and feel great in a bathing suit cause I’ve got muscles skinny.
2. Lifting won’t make you big. Yup, I admitted it, I actually may know this. Now I’ve had my doubts. I have definitely been there where I wasn’t sure about if I really wanted to lift weights.
I run, I do yoga isn’t that enough? Plus I want to lose weight and just have nice tone, not get all bulky and crazy looking like you see the female bodybuilders. And if muscle weighs more than fat than why would I want muscle?
Well here’s what I’ve learned, turns out that as females we can’t actually get the big we’re all afraid of (and having that extra muscle actually burns fat all on its own,)
But what about female bodybuilders, they’re huge right?
Yes, but not naturally. They take testosterone to achieve this, which is what gives men the ability to naturally bulk up. So go out and lift weights. You’ll actually find yourself amazed with the muscle tone you start to see and if you’re like me, feel pretty bad ass for knowing how to use the weight machines. Which brings me to my next point…
3. It’s not about the number. It’s about how you feel. I’m guilty of telling Daniel, what should I do to lose 5 pounds? And in the end, even though many of us have ideal weight numbers in our heads that we would like to say we weigh it’s not really about the number that shows up on the scale if you’re brave enough to step on. It’s about taking care of your body so it’s healthy and feeling good about yourself in your clothes.
4. Trust your instincts, you know a lot more about losing weight than you think. In the end, to lose weight you need to burn more calories than you take in. Sometimes I ask Daniel if it’s healthy to eat that next piece of chocolate and drink one more glass of wine.
Well as long as it’s dark chocolate and red wine I’m actually doing something good for my body right?
Deep down I know the answer I just want him to tell me it’s healthy even though I know it’s not THAT healthy. And on that same note drink lots of water. Sometimes when you think you’re hungry it’s actually because you’re thirsty and staying hydrated can help not only naturally suppress your appetite but also clean out unwanted toxins from your body.
5. And lastly, if you hire a personal trainer, which I recommend at least trying once because they help to keep you motivated and on a program to achieve specific goals, just be wary of personal trainers who don’t know what they’re doing.
You might think because they were hired at your gym they all know what they’re doing and I’m sure they know some things and can possibly get you to lose weight too but just realize that just like there are good doctors and bad doctors, there are good personal trainers and bad ones. Not sure what to look for? You can read more about it on Daniel’s blog The Aipa Project.
So don’t be afraid to get in there and moving metal, and if you’re looking for a personal trainer Daniel offers in person (if you live in Hawaii) and online strength coaching. (Sorry shameless plug.)
Not there yet? Meh, start with the water!